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Autism: When Devon Was Diagnosed

I have already told you about my son Devon being Autistic. I can’t believe the difference in him since we have moved to South Carolina. Devon has started saying some words and is now able to distinguish between numbers and letters. This has made me so proud, you don’t know how far he has come in the last 3 years.

It doesn’t take much to make me proud of both of my children, but Devon is 18 years old and for him to be able to do these things is a big thing for me. Devon is 18 years old, by now most children his age are either in their last year of high school or in college, My Devon will be in school till he is 21, after that I have no clue what is going to happen, but that is just another step we will worry about when the time comes. Devon was diagnosed with Autism when he was 4 1/2 years old, I still remember that day like it was yesterday, up till that point we just thought it was something he was going through. He did everything early, from rolling over to walking, he was even saying words. That all stopped when he was 1 1/2 years old. All the words he was saying vanished, Devon was having meltdowns, tantrums, doing thing typical of Autism, but at that time I just thought it was just another “thing” he was going through, that any day he would say all those words again, even say Mommy again…But that wasn’t to happen.

When Devon turned 3 we put him in an Early developmental class in our local school, I remember the day we had to go in so they could meet with us to make sure this was the class for Devon… The tantrum Devon had, throwing himself on the floor and crying, The teacher looked at me and knew right away Devon needed to be in that class. When he was 4 1/2 we had a meeting with his case manager from the school district and they told me that they thought Devon needed to be evaluated by a Neurologist and they referred me to one in the area. the day finally came to go to our appointment, Devon’s father, me and Devon went to that doctor appointment and that was the day our lives changed. They did whatever test they did back then, sat me and my ex-husband down and came right out and said, Devon is Autistic, she asked us if we knew what that was, at that time there wasn’t much reference to Autism, I remembered this TV special I had seen when I was younger about Autism and it really wasn’t something I wanted to remember and also I knew of the movie Rain Man, so to answer her question I said yes, I knew of Autism not about it.

The Doctor didn’t give us much faith that day, she only pointed out all the negative things and to top it all off she told us that she didn’t think it would be in our best interest to have any more children, that if we did the child might come out with a mental handicap also..unknown to the doctor I was 2 months pregnant with my daughter, when she said those words to me my heart fell I looked at her and said..”well we are already expecting another child” all she said to us was to go to our local library and find books on Autism and read about it. That was it, we walked out of there with all our dreams crumbled, all the “dreams we had for him…him playing football…his first girlfriend, the prom, graduating high school, going to college, getting married and having children” everything I always dreamed of was gone with that one word Autism.

This was 14 years ago, they have come along way in the treatment for Autism, things they didn’t have back then. When I walked out of that doctor’s office that day, I walked out a different person, my love for my son never changed but I think it made me stronger, I couldn’t just break down and pity myself, I had to be strong for him and myself, because Devon will always need me to be strong, so I can be his voice and he can be heard. it was a few years ago that I finally heard Devon say something I was longing for, one simple word “mommy” it made me the happiest person, I never thought I would hear him say that word again, and I owe it to his teachers and his step father…my husband Love’s Devon as if he was his own, when Devon’s father couldn’t live with that fact that Devon “wasn’t perfect”in his eyes and he couldn’t deal with the everyday stress, he pulled away from us and we divorced. Some parents just don’t have the strength to take care of a special needs child, I never once thought about giving my child up, he is mine and is perfect in every way…

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Sheila B.

Monday 8th of February 2016

My daughter will be 5 in a week and at 2 had no vocabulary and I started having her tested as to why. on June 9,2014 I got her autism diagnosis from a psychologist but she still needs to see a neuro. She was gifted an ipad and in just a year from having no words, she has worked (played) with speech apps and me helping her, she has a small vocabulary and can sign some to communicate her wants. She is super smart with letters, numbers and puzzles. She also starts kindergarten in the fall and I'm hoping to see a huge improvement with her motor skills and speech after a year in school full time. she has come so far in just this past year and tries really hard to say alot of words. It's all about what they can do instead of what they can't do. I also have a tab on my blog that I started about autism. http://www.simplyausomemom.com/

Cyndee Wells/Rude Mom Blog

Monday 4th of March 2013

Kelly, you are one strong lady and I am happy that you shared your story. My son Denver is 12, almost 13, and was diagnosed back when he was 3 1/2. It hasn't been easy between bullies at school and his multiple meltdowns a day, but I would not trade a minute with him for all the wealth in this world.

Ronnkelly3

Monday 4th of March 2013

Thank you Cyndee, I know all to well about the meltdowns, sometimes I have a meltdown right with him. It isn't easy but we are both great mom's and our children are so precious. It doesn't get any easier as they get older, but we learn to adapt, and for my son I would do anything for him.. I am sending you a huge hug..

Lisa R

Friday 25th of January 2013

My daughter Devon is autistic as well, unfortunately she lives in a residential for the past 10 years. I miss my daughter and it is very heartbreaking for me not to have her home. I know how hard it is for you and wish you the very best with your son.

sibabe64 at ptd dot net

Ronnkelly3

Friday 25th of January 2013

Thank you Lisa, I love that name Devon,I bet she is as sweet as my Devon :) It is heartbreaking, but sometimes we have o do what is best for them...

Ronni Keller

Friday 19th of October 2012

We have a 6 year old on the spectrum... HOPE is always there!!!

Momma on the Rocks

Friday 19th of October 2012

This post is so powerful! I'm so glad he is starting to advance again. He sounds like a really great kid. hugs

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