It’s an all too familiar story. At the start of your relationship, the thrill of discovery and the novelty of new experiences meant that it was easy to keep things hot.
Until, one day, quickies in the kitchen and spontaneous shower sex turned into missionary position once a week (if you’re lucky).
We know that work stress, kids, a lack of time, and everything else can kill the passion.
But if you don’t mix in fun new things to try in bed now and again, the flames could die out entirely.
Luckily, there are lots of simple but effective ways to spice things up with your partner. Keep reading to find out some of our favorite sexy new things to try in bed!
1. Change One Detail Every Time
Trying new things in bed doesn’t have to mean swinging from the chandeliers and inviting a third party onto the scene.
One of the simplest ways to spice things up is to change one small detail about your usual lovemaking practices each time.
For example, if your partner is usually on top, you go on top.
If you normally turn the lights off, leave them on. If you tend to have sex at night, try it in the morning.
Other possibilities include moving your lovemaking to a different room of the house, trying new positions, or including props like a blindfold.
Once you start to diversify, there’ll be no stopping you!
2. Make It Last
There’s no doubt that quickies can be hot. But sex shouldn’t always feel like a race to the finish line.
Taking your time and going slower is a great way to really get into the moment with your partner.
That said, if you or your partner has trouble with premature ejaculation, you might need the help of benzocaine wipes to extend the experience.
Preloaded with benzocaine, these wipes can desensitize the penis and help sex last longer.
And, since continued use means even better results, you can go from ‘too late!’ to tantric in no time!
3. Masturbate Together
Many people feel secretive about masturbating since it’s a hidden habit we started in our bedrooms as teenagers.
But you’re not at mom and dad’s anymore. Regular masturbation is a key part of a healthy sex life as well as a great stress-buster.
So, why not turn masturbation into a shared sexual experience to enjoy the best of both worlds – pleasing yourself and watching your partner enjoy themselves at the same time?
What’s more, watching how your partner touches themselves might give you some pointers on how to please them with your hands next time.
4. Play a Role
One of the most harmless ways to act on your sexual fantasies is by indulging in a little couple’s role play.
While there are plenty of scenarios and new things to try in bed for married couples such as doctor and patient or queen and peasant, strangers meeting in public is always a classic.
The thrill of seducing a ‘stranger’ is a whole new kind of foreplay you and your partner will love exploring together.
5. Spend the Day Naked
Unless you’ve gone au naturel at a nudist beach, you might not have realized how freeing it is to skip wearing clothes.
Spending the day naked at home with your partner can be as sexy or as fun as you make it.
Either way, without the barrier of clothes, it sure makes it easier to get something started whenever the moment takes you.
6. Take Control
For those of you looking for new things to try in bed with your boyfriend, a great way to mix it up is to switch roles.
If you tend to be the submissive one, lead the way and tell your partner what you want them to do.
If you’re usually more dominant, encourage your partner to call the shots.
It might feel strange at first but switching up your usual sexual dynamic is sure to be a huge turn-on for both of you.
7. Use Your Voice
If you’re usually quiet during sex, looking for new things to try in bed is as easy as getting a little more vocal. It doesn’t have to be ‘sex talk’ either.
A simple, “oh yeah”, or even saying your partner’s name out loud is often enough to drive them wild.
Using your voice during sex is a good way to make sex a more pleasurable experience for you too as you can tell your partner what position you like or where to put their hands.
8. Get Playful
If you’re looking for new kinky things to try in bed, it could be time to take a trip to the local adult toy store.
Like masturbation, sex toys can feel like something reserved for solo sessions.
But playing with your toys together can open you both up to a whole new world of possibilities.
Some ideas include clitoral vibrators for use during foreplay and penetration, cock rings for everyone’s pleasure, or anal stimulators such as anal beads or butt plugs to add a new dimension to playtime.
9. All-Day Foreplay
Living together and sharing a bed every night can make you take each other for granted.
With this in mind, another of the best new things to try in bed for married couples is to turn foreplay into an all-day event.
This helps replicate the thrill of the early stages when hours apart felt like days.
Before you head to work, surprise your partner with a passionate kiss, or show them a glimpse of your underwear.
Keep the slow burn going throughout the day with tantalizing text messages and sexy photos. We guarantee, you won’t be able to keep your hands off each other when you’re reunited!
Fun New Things to Try in Bed
You’ve made a commitment to each other, so now it’s time to honor that commitment by reigniting the passion that brought you together in the first place.
And, with all these fun new things to try in bed to inspire you, it shouldn’t be long before you’re acting like lovestruck teenagers who can’t keep their hands off each other!
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