It is hard to stop thinking about the good old days or let things go easily; because, intentionally or unintentionally, it brings in a ton of negativity in your life.
Dwelling on the painful events of the past restricts you from moving on, thus hampering future opportunities that can be good for you in the long run.
Now being too stuck in past relationships, regretting, and overthinking are natural human tendencies.
But you should know where to put a limit on this as anything in excess is always dangerous.
The thing is, your bad past that cannot be easily forgotten even has the potential to affect your future or ongoing relationships.
Imagine your loved one endlessly raving about or remembering his or her previous partner. What would you make of that? It is definitely not a very good feeling and can make you uncomfortable to some extent.
It is okay that a part of you secretly misses the former relationships.
But it is up to you to ensure that you don’t go overboard with the grieving or missing, as it can strain your current relationships.
Can Lucid Dreams Help Overcome Former Relationships Memories?
Did you ever experience a lucid dream?
Inducing lucid dreams to get past former trauma or anxiety can help you a great deal.
Why and how? Because lucid dreams are crystal-clear, unlike the ones that are regularly experienced.
And when your subconscious is totally aware that you are actually dreaming, you have a better chance of gaining control over your life.
This is because you can decide what the conclusion of your dream story would be. Essentially, while lucid dreaming, you are the hero of your dreams and can shape them however you want.
The lessons and takeaways inspired by your lucid dreams stay with you forever and can eventually help you live a more fulfilling life.
REM Sleep and Nightmares
Research suggests that waking up to non-lucid dreams or nightmares occurring during REM sleep can negatively impact your mental, emotional as well as physical health. Your sleep quality also goes for a toss.
Such bad dreams triggered due to dormant hurt and pain caused due to past relationships can lead to extreme psychological and physical stress.
It could induce a great amount of fear and even disturb your cognitive skills. Waking up all scared and sweaty isn’t cool, right!!
A good long-term solution to deal with this trauma is to practice lucid dreaming, which would help you normalize your nightmares over time.
This way, you are able to treat a bad dream as a regular dream, thus bringing down the intensity of such nightmares, softening the blow, and eventually helping you get past the trauma.
The fact that you are in control of the events or the content of your lucid dreams makes lucid dreaming an effective PTSD therapy.
And the best part is you don’t have to be a seasoned lucid dreamer to get rid of distress resulting from past relationships.
How Would You Heal From Past Relationships Through Lucid Dreaming?
If you are working on preventing or reducing bouts of triggers arising from your past relationships, lucid dreaming is your go-to technique.
Facing your fears and building a better relationship with whatever you are trying to overcome is the key.
So, let’s say you want to make peace with your previous relationship and stop it from coming in the way of your present or future. It would help if you tried practicing the following:
- Induce lucid dreams about it wherein you set up a positive dreamscape
- Become aware that the trauma of past relationships bothering you is just a dream
- Gradually develop the habit of lucid dreaming.
- Get used to the negative feelings associated with your past relationships because they slip into your awake subconscious mind making you more sensible.
Do you know how you develop a good habit?
It involves continuous effort and consistent practice to get yourself accustomed to a particular routine or custom.
For example, in order to adapt to a specific lifestyle, it starts with being mindful of the fact that you need to practice good habits every day without fail until you start doing them subconsciously.
This is what happens when you embrace the pain and hurt that you have been feeling for so long due to your past relationships.
Instead of bottling it all up, you should make it a point to address them and figure out a way to release them through your lucid dreams.
Setting up Dream Scenarios
You can establish your own environment, context, and course of events inside your lucid dream.
So, think about how you can peacefully bury the past in your dreamscape, what would be the surroundings, who would be the characters, and what would their individual roles in the story that you have woven into your dream.
This is how you can achieve the desired outcome, also simultaneously know that it was all a dream, and successfully close a bad chapter of your life.
Let’s say things did not go your way in the past relationship.
Lucid dreaming will give you a chance to make things happen according to your plan and help you lay all that uncertainty and discomfort to rest. This will eventually help you take setbacks in your stride and move on for good.
Maybe in real life, if you think you should have hugged your ex-partner or kept in touch with just as friends. But did not get a chance to for some reason.
You can go ahead and induce a lucid dream to conjure up this scenario and, in the end, feel satisfied that you parted ways harmoniously.
This satisfaction brings ultimate happiness.
Conclusion
So, no matter how shattered you are due to the failure of your past relationships, it is important to keep going.
Lucid dreams teach you to stay put, face your apprehension head-on, and avoid escapism because the more you try to run away from your relationship issues, the worse it can become, making the process of moving forward in life harder.
Try lucid dreaming about your broken relationship issues of the past and watch yourself being in better control of your healing process.