Who wouldn’t want hotter, spicier and sexier love life? Raise your hand if you want to get there but you don’t know how to!
In the beginning, things will be diverse and naturally exciting.
You’ll barely need to put some effort into passion and chemistry.
As time goes by and the initial thrill subsides, spontaneity will make way to familiarity.
Knowing each other so well is amazing but it can make sex a little bit… boring!
Most tips that aim to show you how to spice up your sex life are based on such bad clichés that you’ll probably laugh at the prospects instead of feeling aroused by them.
The following list of ideas, however, has managed to stand the test of time.
Numerous couples have employed these strategies to bring the passion back and enjoy honeymoon sex once again.
Try Something New You Never Would Have Dared Sharing with a Partner
Sex can easily get stale if people are too afraid to share fantasies with each other and pursue something new.
Check this list of things couples did to spice up their sex lives. Many of the ideas revolve around fetishes, kinks, and fantasies straying away from traditional vanilla sex.
It’s time for sexual taboos to die.
Unfortunately, they’ve been around for too long to get eradicated completely in a manner of years.
Your upbringing, religion and past experiences could be keeping you from fulfilling your sexual desires.
As a result, you’re sticking to the same routine and this can get boring very fast.
Try talking to your partner about bringing something new into the bedroom.
It doesn’t have to be far-fetched or too out there. If S&M seems like too much to talk about right now, suggest having your hands tied or some light bondage.
If both of you enjoy the experience, you can move on to something else.
Bringing sex toys to the bedroom is another very simple and effective way to try out something new.
Again – you don’t have to go for the kinkiest items out there. Get a versatile and “non-threatening” toy like a soft dildo.
It can be used to fulfill many fantasy scenarios and if you’re happy with the outcome, you can move on to getting another type of toy.
Making Out Like Teenagers
Did you know that something as simple as taking sex out of the bedroom can make it feel fresh and exciting once again?
A quickie on the backseat of the car will remind you of those early days of sexual exploration.
Sure, it’s uncomfortable and a little bit awkward. That’s exactly what makes the experience charming and unique.
You can have sex in public, you can enjoy a makeout session in the cinema or have your significant other pay a surprising visit to your office.
Don’t be afraid of PDA if you feel like it. Grabbing each other for a passionate kiss in the middle of the street may seem like a trivial thing but it will build a lot of anticipation.
Chances are that you’ll find it difficult to wait until you get back home.
Have Angry Sex
What do you usually do after a fight, when you feel angry with your partner?
If sex is the last thing on your mind, you may want to consider some change.
Angry sex brings many benefits to the table (quite literally if you decide to have it in the kitchen).
For a start, your anger will be channeled into passion. You could have the hottest sex of your life immediately after an argument.
Having angry sex releases the tension and it can also help you let go of some inhibitions.
There’s nothing wrong with making things a bit rougher than usual (of course, if both of you are into this kind of thing and the session is consensual).
Angry sex should follow an argument or a quarrel that has just ended. Don’t use it as a replacement for difficult conversations or apologizing.
If you get into such a habit, you’ll be establishing a very unhealthy coping mechanism.
Make-up sex should take place in the aftermath of a quarrel and it should give you an opportunity to bond once again and transform your negative emotions into something good.
Try Something New Each Day of the Month
As already mentioned, spicy sex is about experimentation.
This being said, you can create a sex calendar.
Think of one new thing you want to try each day (or every other day… or however often you want to have sex).
Your sex calendar doesn’t need to feature classic penetrative sex every evening.
For example, you may include erotic activities like a striptease, a sensual massage, a dry humping session, some fun anal play, masturbation sessions, and so many others.
Focusing on such activities and when you’re going to enjoy them will build some anticipation.
In addition, creating the calendar will serve as a brainstorming session that will help you explore your desires and the huge range of sexual practices you haven’t tried before.
Learn to Enjoy Your Nudity
The final tip focuses on you rather than on your partner. Still, it can have a profound effect on your sexual relationship.
When was the last time you had sex with the lights on?
When was the last time you spent the entire day naked, admiring your partner’s body and your own?
If you want spicy, hot sex, you need to work on your confidence. The vast majority of people out there deals with a negative self-perception.
Media, magazines, and the entertainment industry have all set unattainable standards that both men and women cannot live up to.
Feeling confident in your own skin is an essential for a healthy, satisfying sex life.
Having a better relationship with your body also means you’ll have a better relationship with your partner and with intimacy.
Some of your inhibitions will disappear, you’ll enjoy a lot more freedom and pleasure.
Letting go of insecurities that have probably been accumulating for decades is not easy.
Having a loving and supporting partner can certainly help.
And if you simply cannot get there on your own, a bit of therapy could actually do miracles for your self-image.
Better sex often will require a few very simple and basic steps.
Just keep an open mind and a favorable attitude towards the possibilities. Talk to your partner and be honest about your sexual needs.
Things are not going to get better if you don’t acknowledge current limitations.
Once you do, you can proactively begin seeking ways to make things better.