Is your marriage over? Is it still worth fighting for? These are questions you may be asking yourself right now. Unfortunately, it’s a difficult decision to make – whether you should seek a divorce. While this is true, there are some indications that your marriage may not be salvageable and that it is time for you to move on to a new chapter in your life. Keep reading to learn what these signs are and when initiating a divorce is the best move.
You Don’t Ever Argue
While it may seem a bit off-center, the truth is – you are supposed to argue. Avoidance and silence are often detrimental to any relationship. If you get to the point where you can’t be bothered anymore to even argue with your partner, it means there is something missing.
While not all fights are going to be productive, it is crucial for you to resolve your disagreements that are going to benefit your relationship. You fight for one another and you fight to preserve your relationship. If there is no fight left, it is likely time for the relationships to end, too.
Winning is Your Only Goal
There’s no question that clear indications of an impending divorce are being detached and never arguing, but another indication it may be time for this is how you argue with your spouse. In good relationships, the conflict would be resolved in a way that would be beneficial for the relationship, not damaging to it. If your fight is all about pointing fingers and placing blame, or if it is focused on the need to “win,” the focus becomes power, rather than connection. This is a huge red flag and one you can’t ignore.
You Are Trying to Provoke Your Spouse
If you have discovered you are constantly testing how far you can push your marriage before it is shattered, you are essentially playing divorce roulette. Once you begin to try to push your spouse’s threshold, it is possible that you want to end things subconsciously, but are afraid to take this leap.
Your Stress is Through the Roof When Around Them
Does your spouse cause you a high-level of stress? For those who have a negative physical reaction when the other person enters a room or gets into bed, it’s smart to pay attention.
In the same vein, if your heart gets heavy or if your stomach feels like it is in knots every time you consider staying in the marriage, your body is telling you that it is time to let go. While your brain may lie to you, your body won’t.
You Try to Hide Your Real Self
Do you feel like your spouse will reject you if they see “all” of who you are? If so, you will never have a full and enjoyable relationship. Do you find that you are having to filter what you say, think, and believe in front of them? If so, this is a huge problem and it is something that is extremely difficult to fix.
You Overcompensate through Social Media
Social media is a funny thing. It creates a very edited version of your life. It can also serve as a way to disguise how unhappy your marriage really is. Have you noticed that you or your spouse is using social media more than they used to? If so, it is probably an effort to try and hide the truth.
When it comes to your relationship, there are more than a few important things to consider. Keep the information here in mind to know when it may be time for you to file for this and move on with your life. Don’t try to make something work when you know it is an issue that can’t be fixed.