Are you thinking of trying dominance sex with your partner? Is she on board with such an idea? Below are a few tips on engaging in dominance sex for the first time.
- Start By Looking Within
Before trying to dominate a woman, you should take the time to think about yourself. Consider the reasons why you were unable to do it before. Perhaps it would be something to do with some insecurities you may have? If that is the case, then you should assess your self-esteem. It may help you unearth why you are uncomfortable being dominant in front of women.
- Talk To Your Partner
To dominate a woman during sex, you first should seek her approval. Therefore, discuss with her to know what is and is not comfortable with when it comes to certain sexual and intimate activities. You may be considering rough sex, but she may not be into such. She may be into the gentle version of domination; if so, respect her wishes. Make sure you do not overstep.
- Experiment With Your Partner.
You should not be in a rush if it is your first time trying this, but also be willing to experiment. Test out what you guys like and dislike. It will help you set boundaries. Engaging in the dominant sex is not that difficult, but both need to communicate. Ask if it is okay to do something to her, such as tie her to the bedpost and blindfold her. Increase the domination in stages, but do so with her consent.
- Have A Safe Word
Sex can get us excited, and we quickly get carried away and can ignore the other person and fail to know they are getting uncomfortable. That is why you need to develop a simple, safe word. Most importantly, it would help if you respected it once your partner utters the word. The safe word can be anything. To make it enjoyable, consider using a word that none of you will use during sex. The safe word should be a call for sexual activity needs to stop.
- You Do Not Need To Be Dominant All The Time
Do not assume that because the woman gives you consent to be domineering during sex. It should be a two-way thing. You can be the dominant one if she agrees, and you can be the submissive one if you want her to take the dominant role. You will find dominant sex endearing if you switch it up occasionally; this will keep the sexual chemistry fiery.
- Gentle Dominance
Do not dive into it head, shoulders, and all. You need to go slow if you are new to the dominant sex. Be gentle to your partner and yourself so that you can embrace every unique experience and adjust as needed. Therefore, you should be gentle with the biting, dirty talk, manhandling, hair pulling, binding, and pushing your partner against the wall. Avoid overdoing it.
- Moderate Dominance
Get past the gentle dominance, and the two of you will be at the stage where things become interesting and heated. You, most likely, will be more comfortable with each other at this point and used to the idea of dominant sex. Moderate dominance will include handcuffing, hot wax, spanking, hot lube, orgasm denial, and biting. Things are a notch higher from the gentle dominance and might be rougher.
- Aggressive Dominance
At this point, your game should be some Mr. Grey-type shit. Shame on you if you do not know who that is; we are talking full dominant sex (BDSM). Gagging, choking, poking, and binding are all game here. It may involve some degradation, but there must be some limits to ensure your partner feels comfortable even though entirely on board with the idea.
- It Takes Some Time
If you are new to the dominant sex, then dominating a woman may not be something you will get used to quickly. If you have insecurity, you must overcome it to be comfortable with your actions. Keep at it and progress gradually from gentle to moderate dominance, and you will slowly get over the awkwardness and manage to embrace the dominant sex fully. However, you do not have to force things. Stop if you do not feel right about everything.
- Include Roleplaying
Roleplaying does not necessarily have to be part of the dominant sex. However, it adds some fun and can apply to any form of dominance, whether gentle, moderate, or aggressive. Know your partner’s fantasies and see how you can play them out. You can also get creative and pick different characters.