Are you seeking to spice things up, be more adventurous in bed or make sex more interesting? Need I tell you that you are not alone. The first thing to note is that it is completely normal for sex to start feeling like a routine and so predictable especially if you are in a long term relationship. We humans, are creatures of habit and naturally fall into patterns pretty easily.
Most individuals and couples want to shake things up a bit in the bedroom but often have a hard time knowing where to start. Even trying to come up with new ideas can be frustrating. Luckily, I am here to share with you some action points that will make bringing your bedroom back to life not as cumbersome as you might think.
1. Make little changes
Most people have the misconception that “spicing things up” means doing something big and as intense as participating in an orgy or donning full bondage gear. Small changes can actually produce very massive results. Outlined are a few small, simple ideas that are adventurous and funfilled:
- Have sex with your partner at a different time of the day than you usually do
- Use pillows beneath your bum in your favorite sex position to create new angles
- Try having sex for varying lengths of time. Go for quickies, spend the entire day being intimate
- Get down anywhere in the house- in your kitchen, on the stairs, on top of the washing machine or in a new room.
2. Bring in a special guest
I know what you are thinking, but I am not necessarily talking about other people. I am talking about props. There are a lot of amazing sex toys on the market these days. You can get one that is meant for solo use and put on a show for each other or you can go for a couple’s sex toy and use it together. You can also purchase things like sex furniture, lube, restraint systems or a sex swing. You can even notch things up a bit by ordering a sex doll at SexDoll.com. It doesn’t hurt to have a backup or support when it comes to mixing things up.
3. Stimulate the sense organs
Another way of trying to be creative in bed is to think about your sense organs.
- Sight: This is one of the senses that offers the most possibilities.
While being intimate, try making eye contact.
Have sex with the lights on, or with them off or with candlelight only.
You can also watch porn before or during the act.
- Hearing: Listen to romantic music
Try talking dirty to each other
- Smell: Light up a nice musky candle to get you both in the mood
- Tastebuds: spend time kissing each other deeply and slowly. know what different parts of your partner’s body taste like
- Touch: tease each other with unique textures like fuzzy scarves, soft feathers or silk ties.
Try caressing your partner’s body in diverse ways and ascertain their favorite.
You can also cut off the senses by using a blindfold or try not to touch each other with your hands
4. Experiment with fantasies
Most people think they should only suggest to their partner activities they know he or she would like and accept. People are scared of being vulnerable or how their partner will begin to perceive them if they should suggest such an activity. Because of this, they decide to play it safe and rely on old standbys. The problem is that it is difficult to know if you will really like something if you have not tried it yet. Just explore those things that sound remotely interesting to you.
For example, the idea of being dominated or 69-ing might bring curiosity your way but you are just too afraid to suggest it. My advice, give it a shot! Even if at the end of the day it doesn’t end up being you and your partners’ favorite activity, you will have had a novel experience with your lover.
5. Ban certain things
One of the major ways of bringing passion back into the bedroom is by prohibiting some old standby activities for a minimum period of time. Do you and your lover or spouse often rely on the missionary position? Make a ‘rule’ that you can’t go down in a missionary position for 3 weeks. Or you can tweak it to something like—you both are not allowed to orgasm except during mutual masturbation. Or you both are not allowed to do anything else except kissing each other for the entire week. It might just be an arbitrary rule, nevertheless, it will still feel very sexy that certain things are “forbidden”
6. Turn it into a game
One of the best ways of being creative in bed is by being playful with your partner. There are numerous fun ways to turn sex into a game. Make bets on silly trivia questions and let the prize be a sensual massage. Wrestle each other naked and take turns teasing each other. Make your bedroom the most-lively place ever and watch your sex life re-awaken.
In summary, the essence of this write-up is to give you some ideas of ways to be adventurous in bed, but you can surely become more creative over time.