Being in a healthy relationship is everyone’s dream. Everything just kind of works.
No doubt, there may be hiccups here and there, but you get to make decisions together, discuss and solve any problems you may face, and of course, enjoy each other’s company genuinely.
But this is not the case with toxic relationships. People in toxic relationships usually find it hard to spot red flags.
If you feel unhappy or drained anytime you’re with your partner, it could be a sign that you are living in a toxic relationship.
Things have to change.
In this article, we will discuss signs of toxicity in a relationship and how to tackle them.
Signs of a Toxic Relationship
Dishonesty dissolves trust in a relationship, that is if there was ever trust to begin with. Once trust is broken, it is difficult to get it back.
There are chances that it might be restored in moments or even days, but it is likely to maintain a high level of fragility – just waiting for the wrong move.
A relationship bereft of trust can turn healthy, strong people into insecure, suspicious, and jealous individuals.
One way by which dishonesty manifests in a relationship is in the form of sexual disorders.
Sex is a very important part of romantic relationships. It serves as a bonding moment, an opportunity to show your partner affection and love, gives one a sense of security, and could simply be fun and pleasurable.
In some cases, one partner (the man for instance) may have a common men’s disorder such as premature ejaculation and then refuses to disclose it to his partner.
Not disclosing this to your partner is primarily a sign of dishonesty and creates a toxic environment in the relationship.
So, you spend time together, and there’s no form of support or positivity towards your goals? That’s a sign of a toxic relationship.
Healthy relationships are built on a mutual desire to help each other succeed in various areas of life.
However, when things go awry, every achievement becomes some kind of competition.
Simply put, you don’t feel like your partner has your back.
Occasional display or feelings of jealousy is normal. However, it can create issues if you can’t get to yourself to feel or think positively about your partner’s success.
Instead of respecting your partner or treating them with kindness, you lace most of your conversations with criticism, sarcasm, or hostility.
In some cases, you may even avoid having conversations with each other.
A toxic partner will always want you to read their mind automatically and figure out their needs.
They will expect you to predict when they want a white not red, need a chat or a hug, a yes and not a no.
This is an obvious sign of a toxic relationship – one that causes a great deal of stress due to the constant need to anticipate and make right guesses.
Lack of respect is another sign of a toxic relationship and can come in many forms. Disrespect can manifest as your partner disregarding your needs and feelings and putting theirs ahead.
Brushing off your opinions and thoughts, for instance, is a major sign of disrespect in a relationship.
Dishonoring important agreements or consistent lateness shows just how much they care about their commitments to you.
There’s some degree of tension in every relationship. Yes! But when you are constantly on edge, then that’s a red flag.
Constant stress can take a toll on your mental and physical health. You have this feeling that by speaking out, you may create a lot of tension, so you strive to avoid any conflict by keeping issues to yourself.
Does your partner exploit your moments of low self-esteem, and belittles you at every given opportunity?
Does he or she emphasize that you’d be nothing without them? If yes, then you’re in an unfulfilled relationship, one that is manipulative and harmful.
In a relationship where one partner consistently blackmails the other emotionally, there is bound to be unfulfillment, a feeling of unworthiness, and a lack of attention.
Relieving yourself of such toxic relationships will help you appreciate your strength and independence.
Repairing a toxic relationship takes patience, time, and diligence. This is a fact, considering that most toxic relationships are usually attributed to unresolved issues in the current relationship.
The following steps can help you turn things around:
To repair your relationship, you have to accept that certain events took place, and you’ll have to address them.
However, this should not be the sole focus of your relationship moving forward. Try not to ruminate on these past events or negative scenarios.
According to the American Psychological Association, starting an openness therapy can help set things straight in your relationship.
It is worth mentioning that following through on openness therapy helps the relationship to move forward.
You can start with couples counseling, but individual therapy also works great.
Therapy or no therapy, it is important that you find other support opportunities.
This may involve confiding in a close friend, attending a local couple’s support group, or groups for partners tackling specific relationship issues, like substance misuse or infidelity.