Has your marriage recently ended? If yes, then without a doubt you are experiencing a series of mixed emotions which might include stress, anger, depression, hopelessness and confusion. Good news is, these emotions are not permanent. They will pass with time.
The most important thing that you can do now is to stay positive and try to rebuild your life. However, it is not easy to start over after divorce. In fact, the one moment that anyone really needs professional counseling is when dealing with loss (divorce is also a loss). Usually, before couples decide to get a divorce, they tend to have had a lot of disagreements, fights, arguments and so many emotionally breaking situations. It is things like this that hurt the most, and only a good divorce or relationship counselor can help you out.
For you to make sense of the emotions, you are feeling, go for good divorce counseling. Furthermore, divorce mediation in San Francisco would be great, and this is why;
First things first, let’s understand divorce mediation. It is the attempt by a professional mediator to bring about an agreement on issues at hand. Therefore, if you are looking to arrive at a common ground where you all have a mutual agreement, seek help from not only a professional but also a neutral mediator.
- You will have more time to speak
When you are going through divorce, you will have a lot to say. Judges and lawyers are always working under pressure, and they do not have the time to listen to all the complaints or options. Luckily, the mediation process will help you express yourself, be heard, negotiate as well as come up with applicable options.
- You will save money
If you and your spouse want to save some money despite your divorce, you can pay for meetings with a mediator other than waiting to go to court. Divorce battles in court tend to be length, costly and emotionally draining. Luckily with a mediator, you can speed up the process and forget about spending huge sums of money on lawyers.
- You will both choose on issues to discuss and settle
Normally, when the court handles divorce, it controls the discussion as well as the outcome. However, with a mediator, you can only talk of specific issues that you want settled. For example, when it comes to agreeing on the children, the matter would be better off handled by you and not strangers.
- Your matters will remain confidential
Unlike in a court room where your problem becomes a matter for the public eye, your documents, discussions as well as information used during the mediation process are private and confidential. Therefore, it is wise not to take your divorce negotiations to court especially if it is about your children.
Basically, you will be more relaxed working with a professional mediator other than having a judge make decisions for and about you.
Holly Holmes is a licensed marriage therapist in San Francisco. Other than appearing in media outlets across the state, Holly has managed to write articles that have proven to be helpful to people dealing with relationship issues. He has also divorce mediation in San Francisco, a process that is helping divorcees make the right decisions.
Monday 10th of August 2020
I like that you mentioned that divorce mediation will give me and my spouse a lot more time to discuss things thoroughly. One of the things that I'm wary of regarding going through with a divorce is that it might get a bit too technical without much room for emotions. Even though I want the marriage to end, I'd still want to have a proper conversation with my spouse in order to have a proper closure that will help me move on to the next chapter of my life.