Do you feel like you’re being harassed at work? Are you constantly getting criticized and excluded by your coworkers or boss? To help you determine if you’re being targeted, here are 6 telltale signs of a workplace bully. We’ll also share some ways to nip these toxic behaviors in the bud.
1. Incessant Criticism
Constant criticism is a surefire sign of a workplace bully. Feedback from a boss or colleague should be actionable and respectful, but bullies give scathing critiques. Their feedback is conflicting and unconstructive, which makes it difficult to figure out how to improve your performance. However, it can be difficult to prove that work-related criticism is bullying. If you point out this type of criticism to HR, you may look like you’re unable to accept feedback.
The best way to deal with this workplace conflict is to document it. Take detailed minutes during your meetings with the bully and save them. Additionally, screenshot any insults you receive via email. This paper trail may help you demonstrate the mean-spirited nature of their criticism.
2. Backhanded Compliments
Backhanded compliments are another sign of a workplace bully. These types of passive aggressive compliments may seem supportive on the surface. But they’re delivered with a sarcastic tone that makes you question the person’s intentions.
The key here is to avoid overreacting. If you clap back at them, your other coworkers may believe you overreacted. Since this type of bully is often perceived as trying to be nice, the best strategy is to disarm them with kindness. Responding to the bully’s digs as if they’re genuine compliments will show them that they can’t get a rise out of you. Eventually, they’ll probably get bored and stop picking on you.
3. Spreading Rumors
Spreading rumors is an unacceptable sign of a workplace bully. If someone at work is making up false stories and gossip about you, it could damage your reputation. You should probably bring this type of behavior to HR’s attention. These rumors could be considered slander if they’re damaging, so your employer will likely want to put a stop to this untrue gossip.
4. Excluding You
Being excluded from work activities by your coworkers is another potential sign of bullying. Although your colleagues may not be leaving you out intentionally, this behavior can still make you feel alienated. If you’re upset that you aren’t being invited to meetings and social activities, it may be a good idea to share your feelings with your colleagues. They may be receptive to your feedback and willing to correct the issue.
However, if your coworkers dismiss your feelings, it may be worth escalating your complaint. Intentional exclusion can be a form of workplace discrimination, so it may be a good idea to discuss the situation with HR.
5. Impossible Expectations
A boss who has impossible expectations of you may be a workplace bully. You shouldn’t be given a burdensome workload that leaves you feeling absolutely overwhelmed. Your boss should also work with you to determine realistic deadlines for the projects you’re working on. If you’re expected to turn around high-quality work on incredibly short timelines, your workplace culture might be toxic.
However, that doesn’t mean you have to quit and find a new job. When your boss makes unreasonable demands, you can gently yet firmly push back. Point out the number of projects you have on your plate and explain why the suggested deadline is unrealistic. Propose a new timeline that would allow you to work at a more comfortable pace.
6. Invading Your Personal Space
Do you have a coworker who won’t stop bothering you and invading your space? A workplace bully may pester you just to get on your nerves. Even if you’ve asked them not to touch your belongings or engage in endless water cooler talk, they may continue these behaviors to make you uncomfortable. This type of malicious intrusiveness can even escalate to stalking, so be sure to firmly state your boundaries to the bully. If your requests for space are repeatedly ignored and you feel harassed, consider bringing the situation to the attention of your supervisor or HR.
You Don’t Have to Tolerate Signs of a Workplace Bully
Bullies want you to stay silent and accept their toxic behavior. But you don’t have to roll over and let them harass you. You can stand up to them by asserting your boundaries or getting HR involved. You deserve to feel safe and comfortable at work, so don’t let a workplace bully steal your peace.