Remember what it used to be like when you went out on a first date? There would be a certain amount of mind games involved as neither of you would be willing to reveal too much of your personalities at this early stage. When it got to the stage of flirting this could be tricky. If comments became too suggestive, there was always the risk of giving the impression of only being after one thing. Not suggestive enough could be misinterpreted as not being interested.
The beauty of looking for relationships online is flirting becomes far more natural. Also, since you aren’t in the presence of the person you are trying to impress you can become more skilled. Here are five suggestions of the best techniques to adopt when you are flirting via an online dating site.
Make your chat interesting
There is nothing more of putting in conversation than cliches. Were you ever in a club and someone’s opening line was “do you come here often?” When it comes to online flirting you have to be especially interesting and quirky since the person at the other end can’t actually see your expressions.
Check out their description. There will be many clues in this about the type of person you are connecting with, such as hobbies or interests they are passionate about. These can form part of your flirtatious chat. For instance, what if the person you are getting to know states they love to go camping? Here you can introduce all sorts of suggestive remarks. After opening with cheeky comments about hoping to get an invite to their next trip to the countryside you could follow on by saying “I suggest we travel as lightly as possible and only pack one sleeping bag.”
Compliments
An aspect of flirting universally appreciated is receiving compliments. Tell the person you are in conversation with you love what they’re wearing in their profile picture. Then inquire how easily the item is removed. Ask them what their favorite perfume or aftershave is, then admit you love this scent and can’t wait to get close enough to experience the sensation in person.
Teasing
Flirting, especially online, is all about subtle variations in mood. Start off with cheek, make more suggestive remarks, then draw back, allowing the person to simmer as they try second-guessing which way you are going to go with your next communication. As you get to know them better, tell them how much you appreciate receiving messages, and divulge that reading these texts gives you goosebumps.
Never be predictable
Your flirting should never become obvious. Just like a driver changing gear, you could begin your messages with a few deliberately inane comments about what you did that morning. Then casually drop in an admission you daunted your head when you were bending down to retrieve the soap in the shower. Instantly you’ll have their sympathy but will also have implanted an image in their mind that will stay with them for some time.
Stepping up a gear
Once you have been chatting for a while you will have developed an increasing sense of chemistry. You can take this to the next level by injecting your flirting with even more suggestiveness. At this stage, you don’t have to fret about being too forward. If the connection has been made you should be shedding any inhibitions. There might be a point where your messages make the transition from texting to sexting. When this is reciprocated, all bets are off and your flirting has paved the way for a far more intimate face-to-face encounter.