Weddings are supposed to be the happiest day of a woman’s life. And more often than not, the day manages to live up to, or even exceed, expectations. But it seems that the process of actually planning your wedding doesn’t tend to evoke the same reaction. In fact, for many women the whole thing can be a bit of a nightmare. It seems that the term ‘Bridezilla’ was coined for a reason. It’s not that they intend to turn into a crazy woman, it’s just that the pressure of planning and trying to keep everyone happy can all get too much.
So, if you happen to be in the process of planning your wedding and you can feel yourself turning into a bride-shaped version of ‘The Hulk’, then worry not. We’re here to tell you to take a deep breath and try and remember what the day is supposed to be about. Getting married is all about you and your partner, nobody else. So, before you find yourself on the first train to ‘Crazyville’, read on. We’re here to show you just how simple planning a wedding can really be…
Keep Sight of What’s Actually Important
Everybody wants their wedding to be perfect and so they tend to get caught up in minor details that don’t really matter. The reality is it’s not the canopies, or the party favours that people are going to remember. That’s not what a wedding’s about. It’s about the union of two people who truly love each other. And about friends and family coming together to celebrate that union. So, when you’re planning your wedding, try and focus on what’s important.
To help you do this, make a simple checklist of all the things that matter most to you, and then refer to it when you feel yourself getting overwhelmed. Your checklist should include the following: venue, wedding card designs, guestlist, outfits, transportation. Nothing else is really important. As long as the major details are sorted, the rest will take care of itself.
Relax and Enjoy the Process
The idea is that you’re only ever going to plan one wedding. So you might as well try and enjoy the process as much as possible. The great thing about living in the 21st century is that when it comes to weddings, pretty much anything goes. People get married in scuba suits at the bottom of the ocean. Or, say their vows as they’re jumping out of an aeroplane together. So, why get caught-up on things that don’t really matter? Why not just relax and enjoy what should be one of the most special times of your life?
Be True to Yourself
The most important thing to remember is that it’s your special day, no-one else’s. So, don’t let yourself be influenced by well-meaning family and friends. There are no ‘shoulds’ when it comes to weddings. So, have the courage to have the wedding you want to have, because you don’t get to go back and do it again.