Facebook is full of “New Year, New Me,” posts. I’d be lying if I didn’t say they get annoying sometimes. I’m all for people bettering themselves, but the statistics aren’t really that shocking. Approximately 45% of Americans will make New Years Resolutions each year. 49% of people who make them, most often don’t stick to them. 24% of people almost always fail. Only 8% of people who make them, are actually successful.
Well, I can’t say I know exactly why, but my educated guess would be that people make resolutions that just aren’t within their grasp. Or, they make a resolution just to make one, and really don’t bother to follow it through. Hey, I’ve done it myself, so I’m not judging!
The only resolutions I think I ever stuck with were to be a better mother, to quit smoking, and to put myself first more often/take better care of myself. That’s it. I’ve been consciously making resolutions since I was like 18.
So what changed?
Well, I think I grew up. Also, I don’t make them every year. You can’t fail if you don’t make one. ;) In all seriousness though, the past two years I’ve made the same one, and I’ll do it again this year.
For the third year in a row, my resolution is to take better care of myself and put myself first more often. But why? Because as a wife and a mom, (and my son’s teacher and part-time therapist,) I can’t be the best for them if I’m not at my best.
What exactly does that mean? Well, for me, it means mental health time. We don’t get respite care, so my husband steps in and gives me that space. At least once a month he takes Liam to town for a couple of hours. Every night I lock myself in my bathroom for at least twenty minutes. I take a nice hot bath and read. That’s it, 20 minutes and I walk out feeling like a new mom. (Sometimes I splurge and use one of those 7th Heaven masks. It’s like a spa day in my bathroom!)
Another part to my resolution is that I no longer put off appointments for myself. I suffer from chronic illnesses and conditions, and because my son’s therapies always took up so much time, I would cancel mine. I don’t do that any more. We find a way to make it work. I can’t be a good mother and wife if I don’t take care of myself. And neither can you.
Which is really the point of this post.
If you make any resolution this year, make part of it about you. Take care of you! Whether you’re a husband or wife, a mom or a dad, or both. You can’t be good at any of those if you don’t care for yourself. You don’t have to become a NEW person. Just try to become a better person. There’s always something we can improve on.