Soooo…. You’re expecting! Congratulations. As soon as the bump becomes visible, people are going to want to know every detail of how you are feeling. You will find random strangers coming up to you in the supermarket and patting your bump. Dignity? Forget it. From the moment you receive that first precious snapshot of your baby, you are basically public property.
Not that we wish to scare you, more to make you realize that pregnancy is a pretty full-on time for you and the little life form you have created. Hormones, mood swings, plans for the future – everything will swing up and down. It’s best to try and create a calm and warm home environment to retreat to during this time and you are certainly going to need to reclusive spot once the baby is born.
Your head is probably full of stuff people are telling you about what to do, what to wear, what to eat. For the moment, concentrate on listening primarily to what your doctor tells you and doing what feels right for you. Take it easy and don’t expect to have everything ready within three weeks of finding out you’re expecting. In fact, as you will become less mobile during the last few weeks of your pregnancy, you might want to use this time to start ‘nesting’ instead.
So what is ‘nesting’, anyway? The term refers to a time when your body and brain will go into a frenzied mode of making sure you have everything ready for the baby. This will include buying baby clothes, creating a nursery, getting food ready and of course packing the all-important overnight hospital bag. Nesting can be fun as long as you remember not to take it too seriously. You are still allowed to buy things after the baby is born, after all!
During your pregnancy, it is a really good idea to enlist the help of some of your friends and family to help you prepare for your new arrival. So why not have a painting party and get people over to redecorate? You can reward them with beer and a barbecue (though your beer will be non-alcoholic of course!). Planning a baby shower is great fun and something that your Mum, sister or Maid of Honour at your wedding (if you are married) would love to do.
It can be tempting to hit the shops and buy up all the baby clothes out there. Buyer beware. Without the benefit of a crystal ball, you will not know how big your baby is until they are born. Hence you don’t want to rush out and buy loads of baby clothes, only to find that they are too small! As a general rule, people will buy newborn clothes for you, so invest in a few key buys and then move on to age 3-6 months. This way you won’t waste any money on unnecessary purchases.
What should you buy? Well, sleep suits and play suits are a good start. Choose ones which can be taken off or put on easily to avoid causing your baby any discomfort. Nappies and a baby bath are must-buys and you will need a car seat if you are a driver. Stock up on towels, a changing mat and socks for your little one, as well as season appropriate outer wear.
There’s certainly a lot for you to think about and to plan during the next few months. Remember to keep calm and try to enjoy every step of this exciting journey towards motherhood!