Anyone in a marriage knows how easy it is for a relationship to settle into a status quo. We don’t have the energy or opportunity to surprise one another with special days as much as we would like. That’s why anniversaries are so important. They’re not just a celebration; they’re a day we can set aside to make one another feel special. Here’s how you can contribute to that.
Put the devices away for the day
For a lot of people, it doesn’t need to be said. Paying attention to your loved one is important, as is getting that attention back. But there are so many couples for whom using their smartphones and tablets is so ingrained, they don’t even think about it. But studies are showing that this reliance can have real negative effects on the marriage. Today is the day to stop letting your mobile play such a big part in the relationship. Make a rule that the both of you switch off for the day.
Keep the party low-key
If you’re having a party, don’t make it a big all-night affair. An anniversary is about two people. Keep it simple by making it an early dinner party. Invite some close friends around and cook or even go out for a meal together. You can add an extra little special touch by giving out things with a personalized flair like serving beer with custom beer labels. But leave you and the husband plenty of alone time if you need to have a party at all. Even if you have a bigger family, the day should be for the both of you.
You’ll probably be deliberating on this for a long time, same as him. What do you get one another? The best piece of advice I can offer is to mix-and-match. There’s no doubt that there’s room for a nice, practical gift in there. A nice wallet, some comfy undies or the like. You know what your husband needs. But give him something that’s just for fun as well. Craft beers or a dart board for the garage. Surprise him with a gift completely out of left field. You don’t have to try to predict 100% whether it’s for him or not. The practical gift sorts that out, let the other be a surprise to you both.
Play games that keep you closer together
You should be spending a lot of time together today, so take the time to delve a bit deeper into one another. No matter how long you have been together, you can always discover something new. You can even make a game out of it. Like finding sets of questions designed to build intimacy. These are usually questions that use a bit of creativity and imagination to reveal new layers of a person. It’s always nice to know there’s even more to love about the person you’re with.
Get out into the world together
Not every couple wants to spend the night at a restaurant before heading back to the same bed as ever. If you’re feeling adventurous, then go on an adventure together. Road trips are fantastic ways to make brand new memories together and check out some interesting sights on the way. Camping together can be a lovely romantic time, as well. Having a campfire lit dinner under the stars and snuggling under the trees with nothing to do is as relaxing as it gets.
Find time for intimacy
A good marriage should have plenty of time for intimacy. But the anniversary is a night to take it to the next level. You could, for example, surprise him with the romantic bedroom set-up. Candles, low lighting, a trail of rose petals. You can even make it a more sensory appealing experience with intimate cosmetics. These cosmetics not only look good but can appeal to the senses of taste and smell as well. If your love life has been on the down-low lately, then one special night of passion can be just what you need to kick start up the old engines again.
Try something new together
Personally, sticking to the usual kind of date on a special day just isn’t the right way to celebrate it. Either make it particularly heartfelt or make it particularly exciting. Restaurants just don’t cover either of those points. Instead, cover the exciting part by doing something completely new with one another. Catch those experiences you’ve missed in the past. Never been on a roller coaster? Go to a funfair together. Never been in a hot air balloon? Get the two of you up there and enjoy some real romantic views.
Even better than having a passive experience is taking the time to learn and do something together. Make the anniversary your day to dip into something that could easily become a shared passion. It might be a real cookery class teaching the both of you new recipes to delight one another with. It could be a wine tasting course that the two of you enjoy getting a little tipsy on. Get the back-to-school giggles with one another and add another dimension to your relationship and your life. Learn something with the person you love.
Create something heartfelt for one-another
A nice gift to save for the very end of the same is something heartfelt for one another. Something that bares your soul a little bit and says what you know you should say more often. At the end of the day, when you’re hopefully feeling all loved up, you should find it easier to be vulnerable with your partner. Exchange love letters or gratitude lists. Write, in detail, what you love about them, why you need them and why you’re thankful. It can make for a great tradition to ensure that the anniversary is a day that’s emotionally special, not just a bit of an event.
Whatever happens, make sure your anniversaries aren’t one-way affairs. Don’t be the one to always put the effort in and don’t make him that person either. It takes two to make a really special day.