Everyone has a birthday, but not everyone celebrates it. However, regardless of whether you celebrate your own special day, it’s likely to cause a ruckus if you forget someone else’s birthday, particularly if that person is a friend or family member.
Forgetting to send a card or marking a special day is tantamount to announcing to the wider world that the person is not important in your life. You might not feel that way, but that’s what it will look like to the person. It doesn’t matter if you were working twelve-hour shifts or so stressed out you couldn’t think straight, as forgetting a loved one’s birthday is likely to lead to paramount upsets.
The worst-case scenario is if you forget your partner’s birthday. If that happens, you may as well start adding up how much a divorce is going to cost you. Clue: it won’t be cheap.
However, before you have a complete meltdown, it is possible to recover the situation without losing too much face – and here’s now.
Own Your Mistake
Denial might be the first tool in your box, but if you want to come across as sincere and not make matters worse, own up to your mistake. As soon as you become aware that you suffered a catastrophic lapse of judgment, ‘fess up immediately. Speak to the person, preferably face-to-face, but at the very least over the telephone, and apologize. It might be a difficult conversation, but admitting your error is better than pretending you did nothing wrong.
It may even be possible to recover the situation before too much damage is done. For example, if the day is still relatively young, i.e. if it is lunchtime, call a florist and organize a floral delivery. If the person lives too far away, send an e-greeting. E-cards take seconds to send, and you can personalize them. Another option is to create a personalized greeting card using Adobe Spark. You can make a card for free and post it online.
The great thing about this option is that it is easy to personalize with photos, greetings, backgrounds, and other design options. Once you have created the perfect card, download it and share it via email or social media.
Very Late Birthday Greetings
If the first time you realized your epic mistake was when you belatedly checked into Facebook and saw a long list of ‘Happy Birthday’ posts on your feed, you have a bit of damage limitation to do. Firstly, an apology is in order, whether in person or online. Secondly, you can either take full responsibility or come up with a creative excuse.
How creative you are will depend on the person. For example, while your granny might believe that you got lost in the Australian Outback and had to be rescued by helicopter, your sister probably will not.
Sometimes, an apology just isn’t enough. Instead, only expensive gifts will help you make amends. The more important the person is to you, the more money you need to spend. Plus, an apology meal can work wonders on an upset spouse.