The story details Austin’s journey through 30-years as an emotional abuser, the destruction of his marriage, and the long, arduous road back from his hell. Experience the awakening that hurled him through a nightmarish journey to the most inner core of his soul.
Burrow inside an emotional abuser’s head and find out why:
he is so charming one minute and a raging manic the next – he blames you for everything – he belittles your feelings, opinions, or your accomplishments – he never seems to support you – he cuts you down in front of friends and family – he causes you to walk on eggshells – he is so angry so much of the time – he can’t admit when he is wrong.
Discover what Austin learned during his five years of recovery, along with the horror, that his three decade abusive lifestyle stemmed from events that happened as a young teenager, following the unexpected death of his father.
Through great sorrow, came the ability to be transformed from the ashes of defeat to the type of cleansing and healing that not only renewed Austin’s spirit, but allowed it to soar to new heights.
The book answers the questions: how can a too-close relationship with mom affects him – what type of counseling works and which to avoid – how to tell if your mate is really changing or if it’s time to bail on the relationship.
There are several chapters dedicated to breaking free from abuse and getting help. The book hopes to encourage people stuck as an abuser or as being abused that it is possible to break free from abuse
Abuse was the enemy that plagued Austin James for over two-thirds of his life, but through great sorrow, the ability came to him to transform himself from the ashes of defeat to a type of cleansing and healing that not only renewed his spirit, but allowed it to soar to new heights.
Austin currently lives in the Midwest and enjoys a quiet, abuse-free life, helping men and women discover the truth about emotional abuse and ways to overcome it. He enjoys, hiking, backpacking, writing, and for the first time in his life, inner-peace.
For those of you that don’t know, I was in an emotional and physical abusive relationship for 13 years, that was my first husband and father to my two children. It was not an easy life and one that I look back on now and say to myself ” Why did I stay for so long”. I can come up with about 20 + reasons, but I won’t put them here. It took me a long time to realize that that relationship was not where I needed to be, There were times I didn’t Think I would make it through another day.. My ex husband would never get help. It takes a certain amount of courage to admit that you have been abused in your life. It also takes an overwhelming amount of courage and vulnerability to admit that you were the abuser. This is what author Austin James does in his book.
I have great admiration for Austin James and his ability to learn and experience what he has on his path to healing. He didn’t take any of it lightly when he finally was enlightened of what he had done to his family over his 30 years of abuse, he opened himself to it and accepted it all. This book was a very raw and honest look at what Austin put his wife through the abuse and destruction of his marriage. I came away not only with a respect for Austin for being honest and not blaming his wife but also with a new look on how someone can get trapped in a bad relationship by someone they love.
Like I said, I knew what it was like to be Abused emotionally, but to see what it was like from the abusers point of view makes you open your eyes a bit more. We hear the accounts of the victims of abuse and violence, but rarely hear the sides of the abusers. Too often, the abusers walk away without feeling as if they are wrong, they have done anything wrong and further try to victimize the recipients of their violence. Austin James, in his book, speaks candidly about his isolation of his family and friends through his violence towards them. And healing himself, as well as seeking to heal the ones he harmed, through his spirituality and acceptance.
Emotional Abuse: Silent Killer of Marriage – A Recovering Abuser Speaks Out, is one of the most heartfelt, deeply moving stories I’ve read in a long time. It moved me in ways that I didn’t think I could be moved. Austin James gets a thumb up from me, it was a fantastic book and hard to put down once I started. It hit on emotions that I thought were all locked away. For those of us who have had to endure the perils of abuse, this is an eye-opener into the world of the abuser, in the account of a first person abuser. It is a must read for those healing from, and possibly even going through the abuse and not in turn becoming the abuser themselves.
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