My daughter is a victim of being bullied. So much so we are going to home-school next year. After reading this BOOK I have discussed with my daughter on ways to deal with this one bully in her class. She has tried a couple of my suggestions. The most important thing is she is not allowing the bully to ruin her day and she doesn’t come home crying anymore. She knows going to the teacher and or principal at her school put a bigger target on her back (which is sad). Her school says they are anti-bully but they tolerate and make excuses for this child. That is whole different topic and blog post.
I read my daughter several parts of the book so she could hear other victims stories. She related to several of the kids for many reasons.
She made a list of what kids bully her about
- Her feet- she was born with extreme club feet and still has a bit of turn in on one of her feet. She has gone through several surgeries in her young life. She is walking and running which the doctors told us it might not happen.
- Kids pick on her big forehead. Really?
- Her wanting to do whats right- kids don’t like it when she is the only one following rules.
- She wears eyeglasses.
- She doesn’t talk like other lids- doesn’t swear or talk back. They call her prissy.
It seems like kids will pick on others for no reason. I loved reading this book because it made me feel like my child is perfectly normal. The kids in the book are older than Sahara but same issues. This past week we had a Disney Side party and my daughter invited 4 of her friends from school. Every one was excited and Sahara was super pumped about her friends coming over. She doesn’t usually have people over. Well, two days before the party the 4 friends (all at the same time) told her that they won’t be coming to her party then walked way. One girl later told Sahara that “Bully Girl” told them all if they go to the party then she wouldn’t be their friend and they know what she does to people she hates. So they choose not to go so they wouldn’t have the wrath of the “Bully Girl”. Sahara came home and told me what happened but wasn’t surprised since “Bully Girl” does that all the time. She wanted to cancel the party but I didn’t let her. We put on our party hats and invited neighborhood kids. We all had blast. She went back to school on Monday and showed her friends pictures of all the fun they missed. Sahara isn’t going to let “Bully Girl” rule her life. She has a new confidence about herself and she even told me yesterday she expressed her feelings to “Bully Girl” about her to talk down to her. She told the “Bully Girl” if you have a problem with me, deal with me not my friends. Wow…she stood up for herself and I think that made a big difference. Thank you Jodee Blanco for writing this book and also all the advice you give in the book to the kids. It gave my daughter HOPE!
If you have a child that is or was bullied please pick this book up and read it. It will help out a lot. Each chapter features a different teen with a different bully issue. Some of the kids have happy endings and some do not. However, at the end of each chapter Jodee Blanco offers her advice and some insight. There is a lot of encouragement happening and that is what is needed.
There are so many ways kids/adults are bullied:
- You-Tube Videos
- Clique wars
- LGBT exclusion
- Drama Campaigns
- and more.
We highly recommend this book to teachers, school officials, to be honest pretty much any adult would benefit from this book. As parents we need to be there and listen to our kids.
You can buy the book at AMAZON- Bullied Kids Speak Out: We Survived–How You Can Too
Jodee Blanco for both kids and parents—Bullied Kids Speak Out. Jodee Blanco is the author of the NYT bestselling memoir Please Stop Laughing at Me. When Jodee Blanco began a speaking tour of America’s schools twelve years ago, she never imagined the scope of what would happen, the lives she would touch, nor that she’d meet so many brave kids. Blanco helped many of them, intervening on their behalf with school administrators, social services and even local police. Their courage and compassion so impressed Blanco, that she decided it was finally time to give them a voice. In Bullied Kids Speak Out Blanco presents seventeen of the most unforgettable young people she’s encountered, providing them with a no-holds-barred platform to speak directly to other kids in turmoil, because as Blanco states, “sometimes it takes a kid, and not an adult, no matter how well-intentioned, to reach another kid in pain and get them to do something about it.”