There is this ever looming truth about being a parent that really can only come from someone who has been there. Oh babies are sweet and wonderful and cute and and and… BUT are you really ready? Are you ready to dive into the cesspool that is Motherhood? Don’t get me wrong I love all four of my wonderful sweet children but there are some deep secrets we Mommies keep to ourselves because for some reason we don’t want to scare other Mommies away from being like us. (It’s like a secret rule or something). If your lucky enough to follow traditional timelines on child rearing and you are facing the choice of to have or not to have then I certainly would suggest a quick read, How to Have a Baby and not Lose Your Shit by Kirsty Smith.As Smith states in her book, her book is not a ‘how to’ or another informational ‘baby book’. Smith’s book is written in a witty and very intellectual way about her struggles to move from career life to Motherhood. It is the book for women who are not sure if they are ready to enter the world of family life or had no plans on doing so. Smith’s book takes the modern women’s questions about motherhood and puts them into perspective. It’s also the book for mommies like me who have had children and can completely relate and have similar stories of their own.
Make no mistake though if you want to know how wonderful kids are, and how perfectly fulfilled you will be this is not the book for you. If you don’t like colorful language and real stories of fears, fails and mishaps then by all means pass this book up. However, If you enjoy a real world perspective on being a mother, giving up your once idealistic parenting plans, and what it’s like juggling a baby though social life then this book is for you. Smith writes for those who enjoy humor, understand that PC is pointless and can handle a bit of potty language (after all we are big girls, right?) In the book Smith describes numerous outings and events she’s experience and also some wonderful advice. Things even I a mother of four have forgotten (until my most recent baby 3mo and counting). In Chapter 6, I am Never going to a Playgroup. Ever. Smith writes,
Once you’re out there going places, and doing stuff, you realize the world with a baby and a pram is different to the world you knew before and the biggest cultural shock you’re in for is this: life moves at a different pace outside of rush hour and lunchtimes…
Smith continues on to comment on how time shifts once you have a baby and how places of interest are now defined by how accommodating they are to strollers, and how I LOVE THIS… a new mom cannot have enough baby mom friends but she then writes,
No Sane adult wakes up in the morning after a disturbed night’s sleep and thinks. ‘What I really fancy doing today is sitting in an overheated church hall next to a massive pile of germ-infested snot covered toys, drinking stewed tea, and watching other people’s children have a meltdown over a packet of value malted milk biscuits…
an undeniable truth has been spoken! New moms: it’s okay to skip the play group! As much as I would just love to over share this book with you it really is one that just must be read! We all need a little lighthearted encouragement with some flair, so do yourself and your mommy friends or soon to be mommy friends a favor! Get a copy of, How to have a Baby and not Lose Your Shit by Kirsty Smith. Trust me this book is worth the read for those who have been there and beyond helpful for those who are new to or soon to be “going there”.
Check out the list of chapters… What’s your favorite Chapter Title?