My cousin Danny passed away on Monday, I have been Private messaging with his Wife Susan and today she said to me “she doesn’t know how she is going to live without him”. I gave her the only advice I know to give at a time like this, I said “Sue, just take one day at a time, one step at a time, that is all you can do”. I have not lost a spouse to death, but I have gone through a divorce a few years back, that devastated me. I watched my mom mourn the loss of my father and I saw what it did to her. I know by losing my parents, that yes you do move on, but sometimes things don’t get better. We just learn to live, there is not a day that goes by that I don’t think of my parents, how I miss them terribly. I can only feel pain when I think of all Susan is going through, knowing that the holidays are coming and here spending them without Danny. I know my first holiday after my parents death was so hard, but the hardest day is always mother’s day and father’s day, on those days I feel the pain the hardest, seeing all the people in the store buying cards for their parent and there I am wishing I had mine. I also said to Sue “Danny is still with you, he always will be” I believe in that, I believe my loved one’s that have passed on are with me. When I was pregnant with my daughter 14 years ago, Sue had said to me one day “Kelly, I have don’t know how you do it, you have lost so much, but you move on, your a person that has the strength to go forward, when other people would have not” she was referring to the fact that I had miscarried two times between Devon and Amanda, plus the fact that a few months before we learned Devon was Autistic. I just said to her, I had to move on, I couldn’t sit and dwell on all the bad that has happened, to do that I would be lost. If I could give Susan my strength I would, I know she has a long road to travel with her pain and I wish I could take it away from her. When we lost my dad, I remember all the pain I felt and I felt it twofold for my mom…I used to sit there and cry and wish I could take the pain away from her, all the hurt she was feeling, because I would rather have felt the pain then see my mom in pain.
About Kelly R
In 2012 when Kelly started blogging, she became a highly sought after Brand Ambassador. In a very short amount of time, her blog, titled “Kelly’s Thoughts on Things,” grew in popularity due to her honest and detailed reviews and in-demand giveaways. She finds great satisfaction in reviewing products because she knows doing so helps her readers make better buying decisions. She regularly shares tips and information on a wide range of topics, including: fashion, beauty, travel, health, and autism. In this role, she is highly active in social media by Facebook posting and Tweeting the blog posts she writes on a daily basis.